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Separating with children

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How will divorce affect my children?

It is right that the biggest concern for most couples going through a divorce is their children and how they will cope with the inevitable changes to their everyday life.

Even an amicable and well planned separation will still leave children feeling like their lives are being turned upside down. Your children will see things very differently from you and other adults. They are likely to go through:

  • feelings of bewilderment to the point of loneliness
  • anxiety
  • sadness
  • anger

Your children may try to protect you and the other parent by not expressing these feelings to you. Be careful not to underestimate what your children are going through as they will need your support at this time and positive reinforcement of the role the other parent will be playing in their lives will help them greatly during these early days.

Your children may also fear that they have done something to cause the difficulties between you and the other parent. They live with that fear unless they are told otherwise so do explain to them that they are not to blame.

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To help you to communicate effectively with your former partner when resolving disputes, we have partnered with iMA Strategies to identify which communication and engagement style you have. 

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