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Should I get a solicitor to negotiate for me? 

Some couples find that they are able to negotiate things for themselves. This could be around the kitchen table or over the telephone. It all depends on how easy the issues are and whether you can talk comfortably face to face.

On separation and divorce, sometimes the emotions run high and it is all too easy to fall into old habits. Rows start and tempers get raised. In these situations it may be better to ask a lawyer to negotiate on your behalf.

Even if you sort things out yourself, we recommend that you have a one off meeting with a solicitor – just to make sure that you have thought of everything. The last thing you want in your new life is for your ex-spouse to be able to make a financial claim against you – which can happen, even years after the divorce has taken place.

It is important to get legal advice in any event. Your solicitor can explain to you what the issues are, what your rights are, and how best to sort things out. A preliminary meeting, on a fixed fee basis, can be a useful starting point.

The terms ‘solicitor’, ‘divorce lawyer’, ‘family lawyer’, and ‘family law solicitor’ all mean the same thing. If people use any of those terms, they usually mean a solicitor who specialises in family and divorce law. Barristers are also divorce lawyers, but you will usually see a solicitor initially, and you may never need to see a barrister. Usually, barristers are only involved if there are court proceedings.

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How to communicate effectively

To help you to communicate effectively with your former partner when resolving disputes, we have partnered with iMA Strategies to identify which communication and engagement style you have. 

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